'DOC MATRIX' TALKS ON
Whether they are Young or Older,
People sometimes have some Problems -
A Trubble shared should be a Trubble halved
And not be a Trubble Doubled !
ALL people have Problems SOME of the time
SOME people have Problems ALL of the time
Everything goes into my Magic Hat
Where it will be SAFE
On another Page here Doc talks about
Groups and Cults,
how easy it can be
to get drawn into something,
and how hard
it can be to get away
from the pressures
or the environment itself
- even IF one is FREE to
Doc explains about Beliefs or Myths
we may use to help us understand and
get through things.
After all,
No-one has ALL the Answers do they!
DO OTHER PEOPLE LABEL YOU?
You really can Pick-Your-Own Personality Parts
or Roles rather than have
someone else
project their needs or Labelling onto you –
hoping that you will comply!
Anywhere that we go for help or advice
should clearly not make for a worse situation.
Doc has prepared some Outline Questions
you can use as a basis
- or just make up your own
You can look on the Internet along the lines of ‘therapy culture’, ‘talking cure’, or ‘psychotherapy concern’, and work out where any of it may fit for you
If you do seek Help it should be
the right kind - for YOU!
It's important to get GOOD HELP
or none-at-all
DISSING, DISSONANCE, SPLITS, DIVIDES
- How do you cope?
Dissing has become a part of life, whether that
means discounting someone, disrespecting,
discrediting, disregarding, dismissing;
or being rude or unsupportive
It is a way of Scapegoating. You know the saying
'You are either for us or against us'?
Groups often exclude someone - anyone - to
suit
the majority, as if they feel better to
leave
someone out in the cold.
What happens in Dissing?
People who diss, single someone out to be attacked or cut off, disregarded. discounted, dismissed.
A fairly new word for an age-old phenomenon.
It's horrid and stressful being the butt end of people's bad feelings.
And it divides people up up For or Against - or whatever the rules of the particular Game are.
People don't think or behave rationally or kindly, for fear of what could happen to them if they go against the group, or simply if they support you.
It happens fast!
Try to stick it out and bide your time.
Often the group's attention turns to someone else.
See what you can manage without that group.
It's not your fault if it happens, or if you cannot handle it alone.
This is a natural phenomenon whipped up by someone's needs or deliberate intent - neither of them is easy to handle.
It's very hard when an individual, perhaps a friend or a family member, turns against you. It feels like the whole wide World!
Find out what you can and see what you learn.
Read or watch movies. Wait, see what Doc means.
If later in life you meet other strange behaviours, your experience may shed light on it.
We are all a mixture of needs and wishes which don't quite gel. Splitting or dividing happens in and around us. All too easily we get drawn into other people's mishaps.
Doc says just do the best you can, take solace in what is on these pages - and don't fan the flames.
It helps to see the dynamic for what it is, see if there's a reason, and if you can do anything about it for the time being.
This is why it is good to have an ally, a 'friend in court' to see some of it from your point of view. You don't need a specialist, just someone to back you up and give emotional support.
Perhaps now you know why groups serve that purpose for the members. And how cults play on people's need to belong, not feel excluded, and feel a sense of meaning and place. Those are natural needs and they can be exploited, for money - or just for kicks.
Remember that some people may genuinely
believe in what
they are telling you
Logical Fallacies - errors of reasoning or argument -
use a Search Engine or www.logicalfallacies.info/
which categorises fallacies of relevance, ambiguity, or presumption
Multiple Intelligences/ Aptitudes
Nidotherapy - changing someone's environment
rather than trying to change them
Ponerology - wickedness or evil
Psychohistory website of Lloyd deMause at www.psychohistory.com - the 'science of historical motivations';
the 'emotional origin of social/political behavior of groups & nations'
'Scapegoating, Abuse & One-upmanship' article HERE
Social Engineering for strategies from the computer environment and used more generally,
to gain information or to manipulate
- often via Social Compliance
See Public Relations, 'Spin', Salesmanship,
Anthropology, Memes - or start from your own interests
People have a need to be A PART of what is going
on
around them, other People and so on,
and to keep themselves APART too
And it can lead us into Trouble!
It's important to REALLY
THINK for YOURSELF!
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