'DOC MATRIX' ASKS ABOUT HELP
Whether they are Young or Older,
People sometimes have some Problems -
A Trubble shared should be a Trubble halved
And not be a Trubble Doubled !
ALL people have Problems SOME of the time
SOME people have Problems ALL of the time
Everything goes into my Magic Hat
Where it will be SAFE
On another Page here Doc talks about
Groups and Cults,
how easy it can be
to get drawn into something,
and how hard
it can be to get away
from the pressures
or the environment itself
- even IF one is FREE to
Doc explains about Beliefs or Myths we may use to help us understand and get through things.
After all, no-one has ALL the Answers do they!
It's important to REALLY
THINK for YOURSELF!
DON'T GET
DRAWN
INTO
SOMEONE
ELSE'S
WEB !
Anywhere that we go for help or advice should
clearly not make for a worse situation.
Doc has prepared some Questions as a basis
(or just make up your own)
and a BOOKList - scroll down the Page
Doc's Outline Questions on Help
Could you have got through without help?
Do you wish you had not sought help? Why?
What might you have done differently?
What do you think was helpful?
What do you think was unhelpful or unconstructive?
What do you feel could be construed as obstructive or abusive?
Do you feel there was anything at all manipulative about it?
This could be in the form of some special expertise, perhaps an overbearing manner,
or even someone being quite charming
Was there an attempt to make the philosophy very attractive?
or very 'necessary' !
Doc's Further Questions on Help
Did you ask anyone for some help?
Did you wish you could ask someone for help?
Did you try for help via the National Health Service?
Did you seek help privately?
Did you see a psychologist or someone who used Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – CBT?
Did you seek some kind of spiritual or pastoral help?
For instance through religion, or what some people think of as a cult-like organisation?
Was it some form of alternative medicine or wholistic approach?
Did you consult a form of psychic practitioner?
Did you go for hypnosis or hypnotherapy?
Was it what is loosely termed NLP or neuro linguistic programming?
If you sought help was it helpful to you?
Were there things that were not helpful?
Did you find it easier to talk to friends, colleagues, neighbours, family? Was it easier to talk to a stranger or casual acquaintance?
Did you receive help from voluntary workers?
Did you try telephone or textlines, email or the Internet?
With hindsight, what would you rather have done?
What would you advise someone else to do with a problem?
Do you feel you have ever been influenced by another person or by a group, so that you behaved or thought differently from usual? How do you think this happens?
Do you sometimes behave very differently anyway according to circumstances, or how you are feeling?
What other questions do you think might be useful?
DO OTHER PEOPLE LABEL YOU?
You really can Pick-Your-Own Personality
Parts or Roles rather than have
someone else
project their needs or Labelling onto you –
hoping that you will comply!
DOC MATRIX BOOKList on SEEKING HELP
It's important to get GOOD HELP or none-at-all
Some of the following may help to explain why
'Selfwatching: Addictions, Habits, Compulsions: what to do about them' by Ray Hodgson & Peter Miller
Dorothy Rowe's books on many subjects to do with human emotions and relationships (some available cheaply secondhand at www.amazon.co.uk or you can see them in book stores)
'Madness Explained: Psychosis and Human Nature'
by Richard P. Bentall & Aaron T. Beck
'Manufacturing Victims: What the Psychology Industry
is doing to People' by Tana Dineen
'House of Cards: Psychology and Psychotherapy
Built on Myth'
by Robyn M. Dawes
'Therapy Culture' by Frank Furedi
'The Myth of the Chemical Cure' by Joanna Moncrieff
'Games Analysts Play' by Martin Shepard & Marjorie Lee
'The Myth of Mental Illness' by Thomas S. Szasz
Talking Cure - useful information & links relevant for the UK at:
www.talkingcure.co.uk (site of Dr Douglas McFadzean & associates)
Some Guidelines for Seeking Help & Self-Help are at
TANSAL ABUSE LINKS
http://tansal.50megs.com/guidelinesforhelp.html
Human Rights including Mental Health & Discrimination
are on this Site HERE
People have a need to be A PART of what is going
on
around them, other People and so on,
and to keep themselves APART too
You can look on the Internet along the lines of ‘therapy culture’, ‘talking cure’, or ‘psychotherapy concern’, and work out where any of it may fit for you
If you do seek Help it should be
the right kind - for YOU!
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