'DOC MATRIX' TALKS ON
Whether they are Young or Older,
People sometimes have some Problems -
A Trubble shared should be a Trubble halved
And not be a Trubble Doubled !
ALL people have Problems SOME of the time
SOME people have Problems ALL of the time
Everything goes into my Magic Hat
Where it will be SAFE
PRESSURES FROM OUTSIDE & WITHIN
Doc Matrix thinks that lots of young people, and older people too are very sensitive to other people’s needs and distress, and they can feel pressured by those – often without a word being spoken
Maybe that goes towards making it so effective
Doc Matrix agrees with the idea that there is a ‘people paradox’ liking to belong to groups and mix with others,
at the same time as having a streak of independence. It stands to reason that there will be some conflicts
between our own needs
and those of other people sometimes.
Research shows how some of our actions seem illogical. We may not realise how situations develop or change quite radically.
Our psychological need is to get around things even without knowing what’s happening. That can work well but can also go awry.
People have a tendency to want to be consistent in how they do things or how they are thought of by other people:
‘I am the sort of person who does this rather than that',
or ‘I’d like people to think I am kind rather than cruel,
thoughtful rather than stupid’ or whatever it is.
BUT we often behave differently in different situations, and this
seems more relevant to the specific situation than we often think!
We have quite a range of behaviours to call into play. The knack is not to allow other people to call into play the ones that suit them.
For people who feel they to want to run away or go Missing from Home there are plenty of HelpLinks - and for anyone just needing information
The BBC Website www.bbc.co.uk/headroom
shows common ‘myths’ or misperceptions about
people’s
Mental Health and other problems with plenty of LINKS
You can do a Moodscape animation too!
Agencies providing a good range of support & information about Disability are listed HERE, or visit Doc's HELPLinks Page
Doc has written about how you can Pick-Your-Own Personality Parts & Roles rather than have someone else project their needs or Labelling onto you – hoping that you will comply!
He explains about Beliefs or Myths we may use to
help us understand and get through things.
After all, no-one has ALL the Answers do they!
On another Page here Doc talks about Groups and Cults,
how easy it can be to get drawn into something, and
how hard it can be to get away from the pressures or the
environment itself -
even IF one is FREE to do so
See Doc's X-Files Page about other People's Needs and how they can be SO BIG that they affect YOU too!
DOC MATRIX BOOKLists on
~ ADVERTISING & INFLUENCE
~ BELIEFS & BEHAVIOUR
~ CULTS & GROUPS
~ CON-TRICKS & SCAMS
~ MAGIC & ILLUSION
~ MIND & PERSONALITY
~ SEEKING HELP for YOURSELF
~ X-FILES and W-H-Y?
There is room for divergence and potential for conflict both
within ourselves and with others we mix with.
Conflicts with other people, or feeling alienated can apply to
any situation, home, work, college, friends
People can feel more secure in a partnership or group setting which can have the advantage – or distinct disadvantage - of making anyone who is not included feel excluded and even more vulnerable
But it is not easy to comply with a friend, relative, partner or group on everything. It can be hard and lonely to go against what others say, or want, or do, or what they require of YOU
DOC MATRIX BOOKList on PRESSURES & CONTEXT
'Abnormal Psychology & Modern Life' by Carson, Butcher, Miller
'Amusing Ourselves to Death' by Neil Postman
'Archaeology of the Mind: the Social History of the Unconscious'
by George Frankl
'Cross-Cultural Psychology' by Berry, Poortinga, Segall, Dasen
'Genome' by Matt Ridley
'Going Postal' by Mark Ames
'Remotely Controlled' by Dr Aric Sigman
'Rene Girard: Violence & Mimesis' by Chris Fleming
'Scapegoating, Abuse & One-upmanship' article HERE
'Social Psychology' by M A Hogg & G M Vaughan
'Somebodies & Nobodies: Overcoming the Abuse of Rank'
by Robert W Fuller
'Soul Made Flesh: How the Secrets of the Brain were Uncovered in Seventeenth-Century England' by Carl Zimmer
'The Brain & the Mind' ed. Bridget Giles
'The Emotions: a Philosophical Exploration' by Peter Goldie
'The Eternal Child' by Clive Bromhall
Also relevant MIND & PERSONALITY Booklist
NEW on this SITE:
Human Rights, Miscarriages of Justice,
Mental Health & Discrimination
Doc's Notes on Personal Safety
Anywhere that we go for help or advice should clearly not make for a worse situation. Doc has prepared some Outline Questions you can use as a basis - or just make up your own
It's important to get GOOD HELP
or none-at-all
Doc Matrix 'Trubbles' Animated Flash Site (Flash Player 8 or above) is at http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/docmatrix |
Dissing has become a part of life, whether that means discounting someone, disrespecting, discrediting, disregarding, dismissing; or being rude or unsupportive. More on this HERE
It is a way of Scapegoating. You know the saying 'You are either for us or against us'? Groups often exclude someone - anyone - to suit the majority, as if they feel better to leave someone in the cold. It happens in families too!
It helps to see the dynamic for what it is, see if there's a reason, and if you can do anything about it for the time being.
This is why it is good to have an ally, a 'friend in court' to see some of it from your point of view. You don't need a specialist, just someone to back you up and give emotional support.
Perhaps now you know why groups serve that purpose for the members.
And how cults play on people's need to belong, not feel excluded, and feel a sense of meaning and place. Those are natural needs and they can be exploited, for money - or just for kicks.
If you have tales which are relevant or funny even, let Doc know by email, making it clear whether they are Confidential or you think they could help others
Let Doc know if you find any good Links, or somewhere offering constructive or creative Help
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