'DOC MATRIX' SAYS
Conflicts with other people, or feeling alienated can apply to ANY situation, home, work, college, friends
But it is not easy to comply with a friend, relative, partner or group on Everything
It can be hard and lonely to go against what others say, or want, or do, or what they require of YOU
On another Page here Doc talks about
Groups and Cults,
how easy it can be
to get drawn into something,
and how hard
it can be to get away
from the pressures
or the environment itself
- even IF one is FREE to
Doc explains about Beliefs or Myths
we may use to help us understand and
get through things.
After all,
No-one has ALL the Answers do they!
NEW on this SITE:
Human Rights, Miscarriages of Justice,
Mental Health & Discrimination
Doc's Notes on Personal Safety
It's important to REALLY
THINK for YOURSELF!
PICK-YOUR-OWN PERSONALITY
PARTS & ROLES
Contrary to what many people think about personality being pretty consistent, we tend to use whims and strategies of behaviour more than we'd like to admit.
We are a mixture of needs and ideas, some of which may indeed be consistent, and it helps us to know what to expect of ourselves and of other people for many things.
Look on it as a shorthand or code, much as we classify a small cat to distinguish it from a huge tiger or a dog or a bird. We bring things in from the past from fairy tales, TV or what people say.
Parts of us grow up while other parts don't so we can still be affected. There is a tendency now for greater flexibility over what makes up personality.
Some people wax lyrical about archetypes and that's fine if that suits you - archetypes don't need to be anything fancy, but just having an image of a teacher, a nurse, a cowboy or justice in general.
There probably are ones that many people tend to choose: guardian angels, fairy godmother, perhaps Freudian or Jungian ideas of what makes people tick or the world keep on turning.
So if people say you will or won't do something because of some 'profile' or test, take no notice!
People can feel more secure in a partnership or group setting which can have the advantage – or distinct disadvantage - of making anyone who is not included feel excluded and even more vulnerable
Read what Doc Matrix says about Pressures from
both Outside and Within ourselves
It is not easy, or even possible, to comply with a friend, relative, partner or group on Everything
Dissing has become a part of life, whether that means
discounting someone, disrespecting, discrediting,
disregarding, dismissing; or being rude or unsupportive -
More on this HERE;
'Scapegoating, Abuse & One-upmanship' article HERE
Believe as you want to of yourself and let detractors
worry about themselves instead
The World will be a Happier Place!
DO OTHER PEOPLE LABEL YOU?
You really can Pick-Your-Own Personality Parts
or Roles rather than have
someone else
project their needs or Labelling onto you –
hoping that you will comply!
See the Doc Matrix BookList on
Mind & Personality on the right -
DOC MATRIX BOOKList on MIND & PERSONALITY
'Abnormal Psychology & Modern Life' by Carson, Butcher, Miller
'A Mind of its Own' by Cordelia Fine
'A User's Guide to the Brain' by John Ratey
'Embracing Ourselves: the Voice Dialogue Manual'
by Hal Stone & Sidra L Stone
'Lack of Character' by John M Doris
'Multiple Intelligences' by Howard Gardner
'Multiple Man' by Adam Crabtree
'Of Two Minds' by Fredric Schiffer
'Opening Skinner's Box' by Lauren Slater
'The Cult of Personality' by Annie Murphy Paul
'The Person: An Introduction to Personality Psychology'
by Dan P McAdams
'Vital Lies, Simple Truths - The Psychology of
Self-Deception'
by Daniel Goleman
'Somebodies & Nobodies: Overcoming the Abuse of Rank'
by Robert W Fuller
'The Brain & the Mind' ed. Bridget Giles
'The Human Brain' by Susan Greenfield
Also relevant the Pressures & Context Booklist
And see Doc Matrix Booklists on
Advertising & Influence
Beliefs & Behaviour
Con-Tricks & Scams
Cults & Groups
Magic & Illusion
People have a need to be A PART of what is going
on
around them, other People and so on,
and to keep themselves APART too
Anywhere that we go for help or advice should clearly not make for a worse situation. Doc has prepared some Outline Questions you can use as a basis - or just make up your own
Whether they are Young or Older,
People sometimes have some Problems -
A Trubble shared should be a Trubble halved
And not be a Trubble Doubled !
ALL people have Problems SOME of the time
SOME people have Problems ALL of the time
Everything goes into my Magic Hat
Where it will be SAFE
See Doc's X-Files Page about other
People's Needs and how they can be
SO BIG that they affect YOU too!
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